Domestic Violence Prevention

Man beating up a woman

Woman beating up a man

Originally Posted from My views on domestic violence 9 Sep 2014 Http://Citysuburb.Wix.Com/Pauls-Writing-Style/Apps/Blog/My-Views-On-Domestic-Violence

The first thing that come to my mind whenever I think of domestic violence is physical abuse. Physical abuse is in the form of pushing, slapping, punching, kicking, etc. Unfortunately domestic violence is happening too much in both relationships & marriages. The scenarios are the following that happens in domestic violence: Boyfriend beating up girlfriend, girlfriend beating up boyfriend, husband beating up wife, and wife beating up husband. Tempers begin to flare and the next thing you know you see 2 couples in a very heated argument. The question that pops in my head is what causes people to be so violent to the one that they say that they truly love? The answer is simple as a guy myself I was taught to never under any circumstances put my hands on a woman. Yet some men think they can put their hands on women for whatever idiotic reason such as saying, "Honey you know I love you but it upsets me when you don't have dinner ready for me when I come home from work." This sounds stupid but yet there are some women who are being abused by their spouse or their significant other that believe that baloney that the abuser say to her. This kind of behavior is not acceptable and no woman deserve to be treated that way. Now when it comes to a woman beating up her spouse or significant other, it comes as a shock to people because people don't normally think of women as abusive because men rarely report abuse when he's being abused. When a woman is physically abusive to the man then the man should know to walk away from that relationship or get out of that marriage. When a man is physically abusive to the woman then the woman should know to file a restraining order against the man or get out of that marriage. The question that comes to mind when I think of domestic violence is why in the world would anyone stay in a abusive relationship or marriage? The words desperate, he or she can't think that they can do better, low self-esteem, etc., comes to mind.

I had a chance to watch the video of former Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice and what he did to his then fiancee' (now wife) Janay when they were coming from the Casino in Atlantic City and I found the whole incident to be very disturbing. Ray Rice is big and strong and Janay was little and weaker obviously. Janay tried to walk away because she didn't want to get into a heated argument with Ray. Ray was aggressive and pushed Janay and sucker punched Janay and she was knocked unconscious. Ray Rice should have not did anything because Janay was not aggressive towards him and even if Janay would have been aggressive and tried to attack Ray, Ray could have held her back without putting his hands on her. NFL Commissioner Roger Goodel took a lot of heat for only giving Ray Rice a 2 game suspension and Ray Rice and his wife Janay Rice, right by Ray's side tried to plea with the NFL Commissioner and it worked for a moment because Goodel didn't see the footage of the video. TMZ had the whole footage of the Ray Rice incident on an elevator where Ray was physically abusing Janay. The NFL Commissioner Goodel suspended Ray Rice indefinitely and the Baltimore Ravens cut Ray Rice and it was good riddance for Ray Rice playing for the Ravens. Ray Rice essentially has blown his chances at playing for any NFL team ever again. I must say, I witnessed 2 times when a man was abusive to a woman in Downtown Hartford. The first time I saw an incident was when a big muscular man was beating up this petite woman. I was only 14 so that was 22 years ago back in 1992, I was with a friend and I noticed across the street from CVS on Pearl St. off of Main St. I wanted to help the woman and I told my friend "let's jump him!" My friend was like "no you fight him!" I was small, I must have been like 5' 3" I know I would have gotten my butt whupped but I didn't feel that it was right to see a man beat on a woman like that. The other time was a little over a month ago, me & my mom witnessed a man bullying a woman who was bigger and taller than him. The man was verbally abusive to her and he was yelling at her and he threw his big book bag on the ground and made her get down on the ground and pick it up (this happened a couple of times). It was off of Main St. & Asylum St. I was ready to call the police on my cellphone because the man looked like he was going to hit the woman. I told my mom about it because she saw the incident after me after it already happened. People are ready to kill nowadays, which was completely different from when people would have fist fought each other back then in the 80's and 90's. How do you help prevent domestic violence? It's simple after the first hit he or she should know that they don't deserve it and should not be in that relationship or marriage. If the man truly love the woman he won't put his hands on her ever and if a woman truly loves the man she won't be aggressive physically to him. "Domestic violence has no place in sports or anywhere for that matter!"